A Not A Ballerina reader named Kate just asked me a tricky question. But it’s a good question, and as well as giving her (possibly not very helpful) my answer, I thought there might be some other good opinions out there to help her. Basically, her question is this:
I have the travel bug and the huge question on my mind is – what do I do about relationships? Did you have anyone back “home” or did you decide to cut it all and be a free spirit? I think maintaining a relationship while travelling all over the world for months at a time would be difficult to say the least but is it even possible?
First up, I have to say I was really lucky. For most of my long-term travels, I was together with a boyfriend who was also keen to travel. Without him, I’m not sure I would have taken the step and gone off alone, so I’m grateful for that. On the other hand, without him, I would also have gone other places, lived longer in Japan, perhaps moved on to live in Morocco or Moscow (two of the places I applied for teaching jobs in at various stages!) but, who knows.
I think Kate’s definitely right that maintaining a relationship while you’re off travelling the world would be extremely difficult. Probably not impossible for exactly the right couple, but very hard. So, what do you do if your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other doesn’t want to travel with you? Staying home sounds like a bad answer to me, but splitting up is not a great answer either. I think it would depend a lot on how serious your relationship was, how long you were planning to travel for, and a whole bunch of other questions – but I’m hoping some readers can offer their advice!
(Writing this made me think of several bloggers I know who’ve written tangentially on this topic – have a look at Nora’s piece on Breaking up while travelling and Craig and Linda’s stuff on Couples’ travel to get some other travel and relationship advice.)
[Thanks to complicity for the pic, via Flickr/CC]